12 Things Every Man Should Know before 30

12 Things Every Man Should Know before 30 

Just as every woman must grow from experiences so must every man. This list is dedicated to the fellas. These are a few things that every man should know before the age of 30. If you are over 30 and still do not have it figured out, don’t feel bad, just do better. Please feel free to add on…

1. Good Credit Is A Pathway To Success
Just as I mentioned with the ladies, having good credit can open doors and in some cases make life easier. Do not do the fool and accept all of the many credit card offers you will be receiving as soon as the clock hits midnight on your 18th birthday. You will regret charging those sneakers later.

2. Have Some Grown Man Gear
The latest sneakers are cool but nothing makes a man more sexier than seeing him in a nice suit. Even a nice button down and slacks can be a good look. Throw on some Kenneth Cole shoes or something similar in style and yummy. Jeans and sneakers can be your everyday apparel but know when to dress for the occasion and invest in having that gear on hand for said occasion. Fellas, you have no idea what the ability to dress for the occasion does to a woman. Trust me, it is a good thing. You must be able to switch your “swag” for every instance that life throws at you.

3. You Cannot live in your Momma/Auntie’s Basement Forever
Nothing turns me off more than a big grown a** man still living at home. Why are you 32 still living in your Auntie’s basement? Unless you ran into a financial trouble such as loosing your job, there is no excuse as to why you should not have your own space. Get off the nipple and step out into the world. Sure it can be “big and scary” at times but at some point everyone has to (or at least should have to) do it. Everyone had to get over the fear of leaving the nest and being on their own. I say this especially to the men because in my experience, I have come across more men living at home than women. Sad but true.

4. Making A Baby Is A Joint Responsibility, So Is Caring For One
I am tired of seeing men who make babies and are fortunate enough to be fancy free and footloose because they know that the mother will ultimately handle all of the responsibilities of caring for the child. So they get to live their lives as weekend or every other weekend Daddies and think that they are a part of their child’s lives. Uh no sir. What you are doing is equivalent to babysitting. You do not babysit your own children. I understand that some people are not fortunate enough to bring a child into this world and maintain a stable relationship with their significant other so split parenting has to happen. I’m not hating on that. I am hating on the half- a** Daddies of the world. Seeing your baby one weekend a month does not earn you a cookie. Learn the true responsibility of bringing a child into the world before you do.

5. Learn The Difference Between Quality And Quantity
I noticed that a lot of the younger guys get stuck on this. They think that having various women at their beck and call is what’s up. They think that somehow this makes them “the man” or solidifies their acceptance into pimping. No dear. First of all there is a clear difference in Quantity vs. Quality when dealing with women. Just because you are dealing with 6 women does not mean they are Quality women. So, sure you have plenty of numbers to zoom through on your cell phone but most of the numbers are from women who are not worth two nickels. So in actuality, you are the one playing yourself by wasting your time with all of these various women. If you are attempting to prove that you are cool by engaging in this I have to tell you that you certainly do not look it speaking from a women who possesses a quality point of view. It in fact opens you up to more diseases and other crusties. Especially if you are sleeping with all of these different women. Quality always prevails over quantity in almost everything in life. Learn this soon!

6. You Are Your Responsibility
This generation of younger men seems to be under the illusion that their success in life, their happiness, and their well-being is someone else’s responsibility other than their own. Wrong! You are responsible to yourself first and foremost. It is no one else’s responsibility to assure that you eat, are clothed, have money, etc other than your own once you turn 18. It is not your Aunt’s, your Mom’s, Big sister’s, baby momma’s, girlfriends, etc.. Only yours.

7. Learn When To Walk Away And When To Let Go
Too many times I hear guys complaining about their girlfriends’ being a waste yet they stay with them to only continue to complain about them. Then they become bitter and give hell to all other women after her due to some sick grudge against women they have acquired. When all of that could have been avoided had he learned what it was he desired in a woman and stuck with that. When he came across someone who seemed as if she did not have those qualities, he should WALK AWAY. For instance, if you argue with her constantly and the arguing brings you to the point where you consistently put your hands on her, at what point does it become your responsibility to get out of the situation as much as hers? From the beginning dear.

8. Your Boys Only Know What Is Right For Them
Younger men often find comfort in the acceptance of their decision making from their peers. Even if their peers have nothing going for themselves and have no clue as to what you want out of life. Learn to think for yourself at a young age. I have seen situations time and time again, where a good kid gets involved with not so good kids and they drag him down in life. This could be due to peer pressure, a desire to fit in, etc. Learn at an early age that there is nothing wrong with standing alone in your decisions and maybe sometimes looking like a chump, lame, sucker etc for doing so.

9. Open Yourself To More Than Just Your Block
Step outside of your neighborhood before you turn 30. I am originally from Chicago’s Westside and my problem when dating young urban guys in Chicago was that they were afraid of leaving their neighborhoods. I could not open them up to taking trips, or even going to the Southside versus the Westside because they feared leaving their comfort zone. Thinking like this at such a young age is what leads to stagnant lifestyles and experiences. You never truly know what you could offer the world and what the world could offer you if you never leave from Madison and Pulaski. I’m just sayin…

10. Being Well Endowed Or Great At Sex Does Not Make You A Man
Just because you can swang that thang like nobodies business does not mean you are a man. Nor does it mean that you are ready for the consequences of that behavior. Do not let your penis be the only thing that makes you special. Have more to offer a woman than that alone. You have to step it up because there are plenty of penises to go around. Also, you may not be aware of this but women get penis thrown at them daily so you are not the first to offer it up. Which is why you should have something more than your long stroke to bring to the table when dating or pursuing a woman.

11. Require More Than Just A Good Looking Woman. Dig Deeper.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a bad chick on your arm. However, you cannot let that be the only deciding factor in dating. So she is gorgeous with a big booty and….. If that is all she has to offer you then you might want to keep looking because ultimately you will bore of her. Why waste your time and hers? Determine what qualities you want in a woman outside of the beautiful face and her measurements. It is not difficult to find someone you are attracted to. Don’t be so simple. Remember, beauty is temporary, but stupid is forever. Real talk.

12. Learn Manners
By a certain age, a man should know how to open doors, pull chairs out, not walk five feet ahead of their girlfriends when walking down the street etc.. Social manners are included. No woman wants to go out to dinner with a man that is leaning all over the table with his elbows like he is about to nap. If your mother does not teach you these things then invest in someone else who will. There is someone around you who knows. Perhaps an older man. Trust me.

23 Health Tips EVERY Woman Should Know

23 Health Tips EVERY Woman Should Know

#1. 3 ways to get the most out of your doctor visit

Know what you want out of your next M.D. visit a diagnosis, a referral to a specialist? Keep your focus and you’ll be more likely to get what you need.Don’t be scared or embarrassed to talk to your doctor-about anything. Unless you speak up, you’ll only continue to suffer.Tell your doctor about any supplements you take. Some can have dangerous interactions with prescription drugs.

#2. 2 health reasons to have sex
Schedule weekly orgasms; call it getting your ‘vitamin O.’ Orgasms release hormones that boost emotional well-being and your immune system-and may even prolong life.Few things in life are fun, free and healthy, but sex is one of them.

#3. Slash your cancer risk

Know your family history of cancer. If parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts or uncles were diagnosed before 50, you may be at an especially high risk. Aim for 800 to 1,000 IUs of vitamin D a day from a D3 pill. It’s often hard to get enough from sunlight in winter-and mounting evidence shows D is not only important for bones, but may also help prevent cancer and heart disease.

#4. Easy weight loss tips

Think percentages, not pounds; they’re less scary. If you’re overweight, losing just 5 to 10 percent of your body weight can slash health risks.If you want to feel full on fewer calories, stick to foods that are high in water, like fruits, vegetables and healthy proteins. Feeling full is based on volume, not calories.

#5. Be a responsible party girl

Eighty-six yourself after three drinks, no matter what the occasion. Anything more is a binge.

#6. 3 things healthy women do

If you want to start a healthy habit, make your intention very concrete and specific, like, ‘put on sneakers as soon as I get home and walk 10 blocks’ instead of just ‘exercise more often.
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Be future-focused. Most young women are pretty healthy-the problem isn’t their current situation, but where their lifestyle will lead them when they get older. Making changes now, like exercising more and eating better, is like putting money into a bank account.

#7. Adopt a positive body image

If you think you look fat one day but were fine the day before, remember that your reaction to what you see in the mirror may be about emotions, not reality.

#8. 2 Heart health tips

Eat less salt. You may be a healthy young thing now, but half of women over 45 have high blood pressure, and a lot of that is due to sodium.
Every night before going to sleep, lie on your back and hang your head and shoulders off the bed for up to two minutes. This opens up your chest, increasing blood supply to your lungs and heart, and can help prevent bad posture from hours of hunching over a desk at work.

#9. Reduce your risk of skin cancer

Do a skin check once a month when you’re getting out of the shower. While you put on your moisturizer, look for any striking, dark or changing spots or moles.Wear a hat when you’re in the sun.

#10. Keep your mouth healthy

If you don’t floss, at least use an electric toothbrush to get into crannies and fight gum disease.
Rinse your mouth out after drinking a soda. Doing so will help wash its enamel-eroding acids off your teeth.

#11. 4 healthy eating habits

Everything you eat should make you stronger, like whole grains for your heart or veggies for immunity. Make 85 percent of your choices this way and you’ll be healthier and thinner.Switch from olive oil to canola oil for cooking. Canola has less saturated fat and a lot more omega-3 fatty acids, which have been shown to do everything from lift mood to fight heart disease.Have a vegetable or fruit at every meal. Boom, healthier Eat global. Spices like cinnamon and turmeric in Indian and Thai cuisines add flavor and have health benefits, like fighting cancer.

#12. 2 ways to boost your immune system

If you’re truly sick, don’t go to work! You’ll just prolong your own illness. Wash your hands. ........Period.

#13. 3 keys to happiness

Get a pet! People with them tend to have better physical health, partly because you have to do active things to maintain them-walk the dog, play with the cat or clean a birdcage. Interacting with pets may also lower blood pressure, decrease anxiety and improve your mood.Unplug and talk to someone face-to-face. Facebook, IM and e-mail are all great ways to stay in touch, but actually seeing people and interacting with them is key for mental health.Don’t be with someone who makes you miserable! When women say a relationship is a huge head-ache, there could be literal truth to that. Emotions can lead to very real pain.

#14. 1 more reason to stop smoking: fertility

No cigarettes! Smoking is a killer for your fertility. Women who smoke lose their eggs faster than women who don’t.

#15 .Sleep better: here’s how

Set your alarm for the time you actually have to get up. Interrupting a sleep cycle to hit snooze will leave you groggy despite the ‘extra’ rest.Keep things dark if you want a good night’s sleep. Leaving the TV or your reading light on lowers melatonin production, which, in turn, disrupts your sleep cycle. Rid your bedroom of anything that distracts you from sleep or sex. More of both will help keep you healthy and happy.

#16. 2 things to know about drugs

Don’t borrow Rx drugs. It’s a top reason for E.R. visits. Your friend’s pain pills won’t make your night out more fun.Before you take a pill to get rid of a symptom, ask yourself, ‘Is my body trying to tell me something?’ If I can’t sleep, I know I’m overloaded. For other women, stomachaches or headaches may be signs of stress.”

#17. 1 way to keep your brain smart

Read something exciting, start a puzzle habit, exercise-‘use it or lose it’ applies to both physical and mental health.

#18. 3 suggestions from sex health experts

Don’t self-diagnose. If you have symptoms, check with a doctor, not the Internet.Keep emergency contraception handy. And remember, any guy 18 or older can buy it over the counter too, so send him to get it?.If you’re not 110% monogamous, please use condoms! They don’t completely protect against all STDs, but they’re the best act in town.

#19. 3 diet tips

Toss your diet books-just eat lots of multicolored foods that were recently alive. You know, like vegetables and fruits.”Never crash diet. Research shows it can make you depressed. Nourishing your body also nourishes your mind. Remember that every meal is not your last. There will be another turkey dinner, another plate of spaghetti, another brownie. If you keep in mind that this is not your last chance to eat a food you love, it will be easier for you to put down your fork when you’ve had enough.

#20. 1 health treat for your feet

Go ahead, buy new shoes. Fortunately, platform heels made a huge comeback. You get the height of a stiletto without the arch-busting 45-degree angle that puts so much pressure on the balls of your feet. And the wider heels provide much better support and stability than regular pumps.

#21. 3 more keys to happiness

Get happy. In one study, positive people injected with the cold virus were less likely to get sick than their less happy peers. Happier types live longer too.Help someone. You can exercise like a maniac and still not feel truly healthy and alive. But stepping beyond yourself makes you realize that you’re part of something bigger and more profound. My experience and research show that it leads to better health.Make sure your needs count. As a woman, you have a breathtaking ability to care for others, but don’t relinquish your own health.

#22. Easy exercise advice

Lose unhealthy extra weight now. It’ll be much easier to do it in your twenties and thirties than later, when metabolism slows down.subscribe to the elevator diet: don’t use them! Any activity helps your heart and waistline.Consider exercise an everyday thing, like brushing your teeth. It’s the best thing you can do for your whole body.

#23. Protect yourself against breast cancer

Take every chance to get to know your breasts-it’s easier to recognize changes if you regularly feel your body, like in the shower and when you’re dressing.
Be healthy and happy.